I had occasion the other day to spend a leisurely afternoon with my dearly beloved friend, Davka Frei. 
Davka is a stunningly beautiful Jewish girl who has zero interest in Yiddishkeit. 
It’s not that she hates Judaism or even dislikes it. It’s simply not on the radar with her. As such, she is continually flummoxed at the fact that I live an observant Jewish life.
I did not grow up Orthodox. I chose to become Orthodox later in life. And this is what gets her!
You see, while Davka can wrap her mind around someone being observant because he or she was raised that way and ‘did not know better’ (i.e. FFB – Frum From Birth ), she has a much harder time understanding why someone who ‘knew better’ (i.e. had a normal non-observant life) would choose a frum lifestyle.
Fortunately for the both of us, the Frum/Frei debate hasn’t affected our relationship in the least because for the most part we are completely dippy about each other. For all of our differences in terms of religious observance, we thoroughly enjoy each other’s company.
And it is that genuine affection that trumps just about everything else.
In our own way, we are both as Loonie as they come… but we arrive at our loopiness from different angles.
That’s what makes lunch (kosher, of course… my friend puts friendship over flavour! ) with Davka such a wonderful, delightful experience.
Love really does conquer all.
 Davka Frei (pronounced ‘DAHV-kah FRY’). Not her real name. Davka Frei is a pseudonym. Davka is an Aramaic word that has no precise English translation. The closest you can come is probably ‘very’ or ‘exactly’ or ‘precisely.’ Frei (lit. ‘free’) is a Yiddish/German word meaning ‘non-observant’or ‘not Orthodox’… as in ‘free’ from religious observance.
 Yiddishkeit (from the Yiddish; Lit. “Jewishness”) – the word is usually used to mean Judaism and everything related to Jews and Judaism.
 Frum (from the German fromm, meaning “devout” or “pious”. The ‘u’ is pronounced like the ‘oo’ in ‘book’ or ‘cookie’) meaning committed to the observance of Jewish commandments and law, specifically of Orthodox Judaism. Frum is the opposite of Frei.
 Truth be told, our last lunch together was at the Oasis Cafe in downtown Toronto. I wasn’t expecting much. We both had the Eggplant Parmigiana with caesar salad and Peach Snapple. It was astonishingly good. Davka: “It’s so delicious, you’d never know it was kosher!” LOL
 Love for one’s fellow Jew.