I’ve given this a lot of thought and have come to two conclusions.
One: most people don’t know how properly to flirt. This is because…
Two: most people don’t know what flirting is.
Flirting is as complex as it is fundamental.
Flirting is about communicating with a person through a careful procedure that involves a little curiosity, a bit of brevity and laughter, and some meaningful glances and smiles. While it can be aggressive and obvious, I personally put this overt style of flirting in the ‘hitting on someone’ category.
To me, flirting is quiet and subtle. A look that lingers a moment longer than it otherwise would. The tiniest of smiles. The most seemingly innocent double entendre or Freudian slip. A meaningful exchange of glances in reaction to what a third person says. The most subtle of body language. Ideally, only the most observant of bystanders would even know there was any flirting going on at all.
One popular fact that gets tossed around a great deal is that scientists believe there are as many as 52 “flirting signals” used by humans around the world.
I don’t know how or where the scientists picked up such information but speaking strictly for myself the Number One Undisputed Capital of Flirting, bar none, is The South.
There is something about the flirting that goes on south of the Mason-Dixon Line.
Flirting is not merely a skill way down yonder in the land of cotton… it has been elevated, refined and transformed into an Art!
It is through the art of flirtation that people in The South experience the pleasures of interacting with the opposite sex.
Flirting can be a means by which to get into a relationship, of course. It is certainly an enjoyable way to get to know someone initially.
But to me, flirting is an end in and of itself. It doesn’t have to lead anywhere else. To me, flirting is its own reward.
And when flirting with a Southern Girl… the rewards are immeasurable.
It’s been 12 years since I went down to The South. It’s been 12 years since I’ve experienced Flirtation as Art.
Nothing compares. Nothing comes close.
I miss it.